I have your book but was wondering what would be the best way to get out of this cycle and get right with God?
” A: First of all, I’m thankful that this couple is concerned about it.
In my book on intuitive healing I discuss the difference between lust and love as well as techniques to enhance sexual wellness.
Pure lust is based solely on physical attraction and fantasy--it often dissipates when the "real person" surfaces.
MRI scans illustrate that the same area lights up when an addict gets a fix of cocaine as when a person is experiencing the intense lust of physical attraction.
Most people who live together before they get married don’t get married and those who do have a higher divorce rate. You’ve already agreed that this is not the biblical pattern and thus is not a healthy pattern. What you’re demonstrating, by the fact that you say, “I want to do this but we always fall back into the same pattern again” is the strong bonding nature of sexual relationships. Sex was designed to be a deep bonding experience between a husband and wife.
and I found myself tearing up when I read, "The only thing more unthinkable than leaving was staying; the only thing more impossible than staying was leaving." You see, I remember that feeling. I Am Divorced I have two ex-husbands and a now a third husband (thank God the third time's a charm).
This is not something I'm proud of, but it's part of who I am, and each of these relationships mashed up together in the butter churner of my life to spit me out the other end as the person I am today. But back then, when the only thing more unthinkable than leaving was staying, when the only thing more impossible than staying was leaving, I couldn't imagine I'd ever find joy again. When I asked her what was missing from her life, she said, "Connection" -- and burst into tears.
As a psychiatrist, I've seen how intense sexual attraction is notorious for obliterating common sense and intuition in the most sensible people. Lust is an altered state of consciousness programmed by the primal urge to procreate.
Studies suggest that the brain in this phase is much like a brain on drugs.